There used to be a boy with a high temper. He wasn’t able to control his temper anyhow. Hence his father decided to assist him deal with the temper, just like any other father would do.
The father gave the boy a bag of nails and instructed him to hammer a nail into the fence every time he lost his temper.
On the first day, the boy hammered 46 nails into the fence. Gradually, the boy began to control his temper over the next couple of days and the number of nails hammered onto the fence decreased. It was easier for the boy to control his temper than it was to hammer nails into the fence.
Eventually, it came a day when the oy didn’t lose his temper at all. Excited, he shared the good news with his father. The father then suggested that he should now pull out a nail every day he kept his temper under control.
As days passed on, the boy managed to pull out all the nails for every day he had his temper under control. The father however took his son and led him to the fence. Here is what the father had to say:
‘You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.’
The lesson is quite clear that we should mind our actions and words because we cannot undo what we do and say.